Thats just circumstantial. Of course, they object when you point it out. Also, if he were just bragging (I think 15 year old boys do this but grow out of it), what is your assessment of someone who needs to brag like that? Im painting and doing some things that had gone by the wayside, getting my life back on track. Ive been struggling with what I would want out of an encounter. Amen. No, no theological debate going on, just seeking understanding of what the other person means. I keep trying to fix it and I act like a good sport where I ignore the reality of how they act. I am definitely tempted to do this! But it took that, and a revelation of a year old affair that he confessed to that finally made me step away.But I did it with emails seeking validation to which he replied saying sorry, but did not stop keeping in touch and hanging out everyday with 2 of my friends, one of them a woman. "Consider talking about the problem so that you can feel comfortable with them again.". For putting the people who actually do care about you, to the side while w whats his/her face. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you. It's impossible to ask for forgiveness from a person who hasn't. Harboring a grudge When people hold a grudge, they stay in the victim role and perpet- uate negative emotions associated with rehearsing the hurtful offense (Baumeister, Exline, & Sommer, 1998). Yoghurt- Thank you. . You get tempted to go for that fix, but you stay away. No MMs is a good one but no-one who knows people I know (for instance)is too limiting. You can do so much better than a rebound that doesnt give you what you need, too. endstream endobj startxref I respect your privacy and only subscribe you to what you've specifically requested. she is at the core of my estrangemnt frm my son (iniated by my son as much he doesnt know & I cannot tell him or will only taumatise him). Its such desperate and insecure behavior (which I dont find sexually appealing at all) that Ive tended to step back and observe it almost scientifically. She left me a voice mail message one day when I didnt do something for her fast enough. Oddly, I have forgiven him and wish him no ill will. You have to do whats necessary to protect you! To hold a grudge is to disobey God's second greatest commandment to love our neighbor. How does one get past this with any modicum of forgetting and forgiving? You're mean to not want to go there. Practice empathy. Ive been having insomnia looking for ways to go back to him. It is very challenging and even breaking off all contact isnt always the answer. Oh lizzp, never intended to say the new guy doesnt have feelings!
difference between holding a grudge and not forgetting